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Letter XIV published – How to become a better learner

Letter XIV published on Sunday 5th January 2020.

Here’s an excerpt:

The question that popped into my head while I was planning out my 2020 was ‘what do I need to do to become a better learner?’

This goes beyond the simple stuff like doing more of what’s working, or going deeper, or working harder.

I think this lever is the one that could truly make a difference to most dedicated learners. It makes sense to me to not just think about the skills I want to learn and improve, but to also see the ‘learning’ as a skill for development and improvement.

So how does one become a better learner? How do we develop this skill?

Here are a few things on my mind…

A fresh start…

This past few weeks are amongst the most challenging of my life so far. We decided to close down the biggest part of our company – CMA – and move on to do something new.

Now that the dust is starting to settle and I’m moving on from it, I’m starting to look at things with a different perspective.

My passion for this project seems to get stronger day by day, so I’m taking the time to take a fresh look at exactly what I’m trying to achieve here.

I’ve got my copy of Seth Godin’s ‘Ship It Journal’ to take a deeper look at why this weekly letter will have an impact on you and ultimately become a resource that you get real value from.

What you can expect next is more clarity on the content and the purpose of these weekly letters.



Where’s letter XIV?

Well…I have been doing a tonne of writing, but it’s all going towards a different project at the moment. I’ve got a tonne of threads and ‘seedlings’ I want to expand on before I get the next letter out to you.

I haven’t ‘ghosted’ you, I’m still here.

Here are a few questions to ponder, and maybe you could email chrismarrletter@gmail.com with your thoughts?

  • What do you think holds back people from saying they are sorry?
  • Where does original thought come from?

Have a think and LMK 🙂



I’ve added a blog…

Every 10 or so letters I will select a few of my personal favourites and publish them on the blog.

I want to continue to keep the letters mainly private, but I felt that some of the content will help me to not only attract more readers but also promote one of my favourite teaching programmes.

Check out the blog!



Letter XIII published – Mirror, mirror on the wall…?

Letter XIII published on Wednesday 24th July 2019.

Here’s an excerpt:

One of the biggest errors we make when we try to help people is that we make assumptions. We think we know what they are talking about, we think they know how they feel, we get the gist of it, so we go ahead and jump into our default mode of giving advice.

We then wonder why they didn’t take our advice, or change their behaviour. We then blame them and say “Well, I’m never going to give them advice again…”

Most people don’t realise that it’s them that’s the problem. In other words, the reason we struggle with communication is that we blame others instead of looking at ourselves and challenging how we can be better.

What if we were more curious?

Letter XII Published – Don’t let fear control you

Letter XII published on Wednesday 10th July 2019.

Here’s an excerpt:

What’s interesting about fear is that it’s rarely anything physical that causes it.

Most of us are fortunate enough to go through our days without being physically threatened or harmed.

Often times we are alone when fear appears.

It’s all in our imagination.

It’s crazy to think that we do this to ourselves.

We punish ourselves with fear.

We cripple ourselves with fear.

We hold ourselves back with fear.

We cannot be our true selves because of fear.

Fear will destroy you if you let it control you.

Letter XI Published – Ideals & Expectations

Letter XI published on 3rd July 2019.

Here’s an excerpt:

We look at the people we love and judge their behaviour. We have our own ideals for how we should behave and we expect other people to live up to them. When they don’t, we think they can do better.

We let our ideals become our expectations.

We can’t live like this. We can’t go through each day being frustrated, angry and hateful towards the people we care about the most.

We have to stop wishing for and forcing people to change and accept them for who they are.

Letter X Published – Finding your frequency

Letter X published on 30th June 2019.

It’s been 18 days since I published a letter. In that time I did a lot of writing, but I never made room for thinking about that writing. It’s a crucial step in the process, and if I don’t get/make that time it really holds me back.

Cara gets frustrated with me because I spend a lot of time on my drafts…hopefully, it’ll get easier, but for now, I seem to need just as much time as it takes to write the letter, to get it published!

I hope you enjoy Letter X. The first milestone was Letter I, the next milestone was getting over my first ‘stuck’ moment, and Letter X is the third milestone.

Progress always feels good.

Here’s an excerpt from Letter X:

Think about your self-awareness like a dial on an old FM radio, just like your parents used to own. Over the past few years, I’ve been learning to dial my self-awareness into the right frequency. There’s a still a lot of noise, but there are more moments when I’m tuned into the right frequency and I feel a lot closer to it now that I ever have.

A higher level of self-awareness has helped me to develop a stronger sense of self. I still feel fear, but I understand it better and more clearly.

Letter IX Published – How many books do you have left to live?

Letter IX published on 12th June 2019.

Here’s an excerpt:

What do you think 1590 books look like?

I took a guess that my local book store has 10,000 titles. It turns out that they have 50,000 titles!

Your local library has at least 30,000 titles on the shelf, probably a lot more.

I’ve got over 500 books in my library.

It’s possible to write down 100 books that you would like to read. You could probably write a list of 500 if you put the effort in.

I’m not going to be able to read *all* the books. It’s simply not possible.

So, what do we need to do to cut through the noise and read the right books?

Where’s letter IX? I missed a week…

Letter IX should have dropped into your inbox by now, but it’s not ready yet.

I noticed my time slipping over the past few weeks…this has happened before.

  • Week 1 – Letter is ready to go for Friday.
  • Week 2 – I’m still writing it on Friday
  • Week 3 – Letter goes out on Saturday
  • Week 4 – Letter slips into the next week

I’m not going to let it derail me. I’m going to find a win instead.

I’m going to get back to my original schedule of publishing on a Wednesday evening.

Letter IX is drafted now and I just need to get it into Mailchimp for sending out on Wednesday.

Now I have a chance to really catch up with myself and have letter X ready in advance for sending out next Wednesday.