Reduce conflict with these four ‘agreements’
There are a tonne of great books that will help you to improve your communication. I’ve read a lot of them.
So far, there is *one book that trumps them all*, and that’s because it’s not about the tactics. It’s about getting to the root of why you behave the way you do.
It’s called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. My Mum gifted it to me around about the time when my brother Colin died (about 15 years ago). I’ve read it a dozen or more times. And I’ll read it agin this year.
The Four Agreements will challenge everything you don’t know about why you behave, act and respond to the people around you. It will expose the ‘agreements’ that you didn’t know you had already made with yourself, and give you four new and better ones:
- Be impeccable with your word
- Don’t take anything personally
- Don’t make assumptions
- Always do your best
Every single fight, conflict or bad experience I’ve ever had happened because one or more of these agreements were pushed to the side.
Think about The Four Agreements as an operating system that will help you put all those great communication tactics to better use.
This book is too important to ignore.
If you haven’t read it, go get it.
If you have read it already, maybe it’s time to pick it up again 🙂