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What do I *really* own?

There are many things that I used to think I owned.

However, if someone can take it away from me, I don’t truly own it. And if I don’t truly own it, then I don’t have complete control over it.

Here are two short lists to help compare…

List 1 – Things that people can take away from me (things I don’t have complete control over):

  • Status
  • Reputation
  • Salary/money
  • Job/work

List 2 – Things people can’t take away from me (things I have complete control over):

  • Character
  • Philosophy
  • Wisdom
  • Self-control
  • Mindset

So, looking at these lists:

Q. Where am I focusing my attention and effort right now?
Q. The external, or the internal?
Q. The inputs, or the outputs?
Q. Where am I likely to find true happiness?

…List 1, or list 2? 👇🏻

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Stoicism at work…

  1. I don’t need to have an opinion about that
  2. Manage my expectations
  3. Never shocked or surprised
  4. Hope for the best, plan for the worst
  5. If it can be taken from me, I don’t truly own it (salary, status, reputation, job, etc)
  6. Don’t speak unless what I’m going to say isn’t better left unsaid
  7. Pick my battles carefully
  8. Know that people don’t make mistakes deliberately
  9. Learn from my mistakes and the mistakes of others
  10. Focus my energy on what I have complete control over
  11. Everyone is better than me at something
  12. Focus on the person, not the problem
  13. Know that I could be wrong
  14. Don’t take things personally
  15. Don’t take myself too seriously
  16. Don’t let fear control me
  17. It’s not about me

What’s a number from the list that you’d like to work on more in 2022?

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How to respond when you make a mistake at work

You made a mistake at work. It happens to us all. However, it’s how you respond to the mistake that matters the most.

How can you turn this mistake into an opportunity for personal and professional growth?

  1. Admit it, own it, apologise for it
  2. Take responsibility and clean up my own mess
  3. Don’t make the mistake of thinking I’ve got nothing left to learn
  4. Show respect by listening to my manager and peers
  5. Take on the feedback so I can learn and grow
  6. Am I Being coachable in this moment? (If I was coaching me, what would I be thinking?)
  7. What am I learning about my own level of self-awareness?
  8. There’s always the possibility that I could be wrong?
  9. Making a mistake is painful, but staying ignorant will be more painful in the long term
  10. How is my behaviour being observed by my peers?
  11. What can others learn from my mistake?

What’s something you’d like to work on? What would you add?

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Saying “no” is the outcome of more important work…

I think we all instinctively know that saying yes to everything is a recipe for disaster.

But if you’ve tried to say no more often, you’ll know how difficult it can be to say no and actually feel like you’re doing the right thing for the right reasons.

In short, it’s not just about saying no, it’s about being able to do it and not feel like a dick about it.

We can get inspired when we see someone saying no and doing it well, but what you’re not seeing is the foundational work they did to get there.

So, what is this ‘work’ they’ve done?

  1. They got clear on what’s important to them, and there will be a specific order.
  2. They got clear on their values and principles that help them make choices and decisions.
  3. They got clear on the behaviours that support said values and principles.
  4. They then set clear boundaries that protect and honour those values and principles.
  5. Then they can say no with integrity. Then they can say no without feeling guilty about it. Then they can say no and know that it’s for the best.

This then allows them to spend the time in the areas that are important to them and not spend time in the areas that are not important.

I think most people try to do this almost in reverse…they get excited and romantic about the idea of saying no, and they start trying to say no to things, thinking it’ll immediately improve their life, but the ability to say no and stay within your integrity is the outcome of this important work, not the work itself.

So, if you find that you continually struggle to say no to people, it’s likely because you haven’t followed the steps above.

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