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Coming back to my values – was I the person I wanted to be today?

Almost daily I write a reply on an index card to the following question:

“Who do I want to be today?”

I’ve been doing this consistently since February 2021, and it was only today I realised that I was only doing half the exercise!

The part that’s missing is to, at the end of the day, look back over it and see how closely my actions and behaviours corresponded with who I wanted to be today.

I share this with you for a few reasons:

  1. It’s a very simple exercise
  2. It has helped me to do better work (and it may help you)
  3. On bad days, it has helped me come back to my values

…and right now, I’m looking back through three months of entries and it’s clear to me a) who I *really* want to be, and b) what I struggle with on a daily basis.

Here’s a snippet of what keeps turning up for me:

  • Smile
  • Be kind
  • Listen and be genuinely interested in others
  • Pay attention
  • It’s not about you
  • Lean into your strengths
  • Believe in the value you bring
  • Be the best teacher/coach you can be
  • Ask great questions
  • Don’t take things personally
  • Don’t let fear control you
  • Don’t make assumptions
  • Just be yourself
  • You don’t need to prove yourself to anyone
  • See the potential in others
  • Assume that people are good and trying their best
  • Elevate and celebrate others

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On turning up…

We all have bad days.

Just because you have a plan and routine for what a good day looks like, doesn’t mean you always get to have it.

On the not-so-good days, ‘turning up’ becomes my simple strategy.

That way I:

  1. don’t break the chain
  2. move in the right direction
  3. keep the momentum
  4. feel a little better
  5. confirm my identity

And…I typically end up doing more than I thought I would.

You might not feel like turning up, it might not feel like enough, you might not hit your goal…but on the bad days, it might be all you can do.

Turn up, see what happens…you may surprise yourself. 🙂

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Don’t do it for success. Do it to SUCK LESS!

Suck Less

What could you get better at if you did it every day for 100 days?

Pretty much anything, right?

This is Austin Kleon’s philosophy and I love it!

I pick up my guitar every day anyway, but I’ve picked a very particular song to practice every day so I can SUCK LESS at it.

I’ve got the chart on my wall, I’m checking off the numbers, it only takes a few days to build up a chain…and now it’s up to me not to break it!

What would you like to SUCK LESS at over the next 100 days?

Go get the printable chart from Austin’s website here.

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How to read books…

  1. Choose your books deliberately
  2. Read every day
  3. Don’t go anywhere without a book
  4. Don’t suffer shite books
  5. Don’t lend out your books
  6. Buy your books (from an independent) and build your library
  7. Build your ‘antilibrary’ (source)
  8. Stick with great writers
  9. Build a re-reading list
  10. Make a plan for what you want to read
  11. Don’t get distracted by new books
  12. Don’t get distracted by what or how many books other people are reading
  13. Make sure your kids see you reading physical books

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Setting goals for 2021…

Personal goal setting tips:

  1. Start your goal setting in October
  2. Don’t share your goals with others
  3. Once set, focus on activities and behaviours not outcomes

Tips for success:

  1. Build the activities into your identity
  2. Don’t rely on internal motivation
  3. Don’t rely on external recognition
  4. Create a routine that makes it easy for you
  5. Don’t let a bad day ruin your week/year

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