My letters are typically published via email to your inbox, and I select a few every now and again to feature on the blog. Letter XI was originally published by email on 3rd July 2019, and was re-published on the blog on 6th September 2019. Subscribe at chrismarr.co.uk
Do you think people are doing the best that they can?
When Brené Brown asked this question, my immediate answer was “yeah, of course I think people are doing the best they can” – because it felt like the right answer.
However, after thinking about it for a while, and reflecting on my own behaviour, the truth is that I don’t think people are doing the best they can.
- I judge people I don’t know for being incompetent, lazy or stupid
- I complain about people I care about because they don’t live up to my expectations
- I talk about how my friends aren’t being good parents
- I get angry when someone lets me down
- I even complain about people complaining!
In my head, I know that I *should* believe that people are doing their best, but my actions and behaviour tell the truth.
I wouldn’t behave or think like this if I truly believed people we’re doing their best.
I think that people can do better. I expect more from people.
But what if believed that people were all doing the best that they can? How would that change my behaviour?
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