Most of us can’t make decisions. We find it difficult for many different reasons.
We find it hard because we want to please people. We find it hard because there are lots of things we could do, that we would probably enjoy and gain value from.
There’s nothing wrong with any of that. It’s good to make other people happy. It’s good to try new things.
But we’ve only got so much time. We’ve only got so much energy. We’ve only got so much mental capacity.
We have to choose.
It is really easy to decide between something you really like doing, and something you hate doing. That’s simple. It’s a preference.
It’s far more difficult to choose what is best or more important between two things that you actually like doing, enjoy or get value from.
Deciding what’s most important is tough. How do you know what’s more important?
What makes things far easier in decision making is knowing very clearly what you want in life and business.
Clarity on your path and your vision really helps to decide what fits and what doesn’t.
There’s another factor at play, which is the fear of missing out, FOMO for short. I think this cripples most people when it comes to decision making.
In business you need to be able to say no to a lot of things, and yes to very few. You only know what to say no to when you know what you want to achieve and you have clarity on your vision. This is tough in itself.
Most people think there are two states in decision making – you can either decide yes or no. But there’s a third, and it’s the biggest waste of time, energy and focus – and that’s not making a decision at all.
All those unmade decisions build up and hang over you like a big black cloud.
Failure to decide has massive repercussions on all of us. All of these ‘things’ that haven’t been closed off begin to build up and consume our mental capacity.
So what can you do about it?
I don’t think there’s one answer here, and mostly you’ll have to figure it out for yourself.
Here’s what I’ve been doing to help with decision making, in case you’re interested:
- I’m starting with no, and working up to a yes if it feels right and fits with what I want.
- I’ve been spending a lot of time figuring out what the most important things are in my life are and in business.
- I discuss and involve smart people in my thought process – it’s good to have smart people in your life
Disclaimer: I haven’t figured it out, but I’m working on it. Let’s be honest, who has really figured it all out!?
My goal here isn’t to present you with an answer, but to think more consciously about the decisions you are or aren’t making.
Maybe you are like me and it’s time for a clear out?
Is it time to make some solid decisions and draw a line in the s and?